Parenting link of the day, mostly for my own reference:
Ignore your child, but do it lovingly.
It has come to my attention that I mostly only talk about the good stuff. I admit it is a bit of a habit; I find fun more interesting to share than pain. But I don't mean to give an inaccurate picture of what all of this is like. For all that N is cute and wonderful and for all that I'm enjoying watching her development, there are definitely days that are frustrating and nights that are worse. (Make no mistake: the sleep deprivation I'm experiencing as a new parent is completely unlike any I'd ever experienced before, and can screw me up for days if I'm not careful.)
For a while, I've been meaning to write a post about all the ways in which I feel like I'm a "bad mother", and the experiences that led us to those choices (unrepentant pacifier usage, occasional formula feedings, leaving her with a sitter sometimes while we socialize, and so on). But yesterday, I actually had an experience that DID make me feel like a bad mother.
( our time in the emergency room ) She has seemed fine since then, smiling and burbling and grabbing her feet as usual, and the only difference between now and any other day is that she has a faint faint red mark on her skin and she wants to nurse constantly. But hey, it keeps her from being agitated, and makes me feel like if I'm going to drop a big heavy thing on my kid, at least I'm able to comfort her afterward.
EDIT: I know this doesn't actually make me a bad mother, but it sure did make me feel like one!