on community.

[moominmolly]

I should have a lot to say right now but I don't.

I made new horns for my helmet last night. They're sparkly. One pair is sparkly AND it glows in the dark. Take that, patriarchy.

OK, look. There's a lot of rape culture. We all grew up in it and we live in it, and I like to think that we do what we can to help shift our collective course in a less rapey direction, but that's a tall order and it's not easy to shift something so large. It's not easy to be 'mean'.

What I'd like us to do instead of worrying about being mean: be supportive. Figure out how to earn, deserve, and keep the trust of the people we love. Figure out how to build supportive environments full of consent and a network of support and affection. Don't tolerate mean and abusive bullshit. Have hard conversations, but also go for picnics and go skinny-dipping at Walden in the middle of the night just because it's summer and it's hot and we're alive.

We all have power, people. Let's use it to keep building this awesome world we're in.

Comments

[gosling.livejournal.com]

This. This. This. This. This.

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

Now the easy part: figuring it out! :)

[harimad.livejournal.com]

One way I work at it, is collecting ways to point out someone's being thoughtless about their statements, without being a total jerk (which closes their minds rather than gets them to think) and ideally makes it obvious why what they just said was thoughtless.

[rosif3r.livejournal.com]

I will, certainly, echo the other "Brava!"(s), and say thank you for being a voice of sanity in all this. i've only caught the edges and boy, howdy!

and yes: figuring it out. all them peoples attacking? ain't noone figuring shit out...

[oneagain.livejournal.com]

I've been thinking about past trips skinny-dipping at Walden in the middle of the night, particularly in this last heat-wave. I miss those.

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

Me too. It's been years.

[weegoddess.livejournal.com]

Totally the best thing I've read online in a while. Thank you for writing it.

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I'm a big sap with an enormous consent-and-support fetish.

[harimad.livejournal.com]

I support this fetish whole-heartedly.

[inahandbasket]

<3

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

:) !

[amber-phoenix.livejournal.com]

huge huge <3!

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

aw yay!

[vvalkyri.livejournal.com]

Wonderful post

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

Thank you!

[lyonesse.livejournal.com]

i love your world. i wish i lived in it a little more :)

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

I wish I did, too. :) but I keep tryin'.

Walden

[baronet.livejournal.com]

I so want to go to Walden. That is a great idea.

Re: Walden

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

RIGHT?! (Not today, but: yes.)

[lifecollage.livejournal.com]

Yes.

[ceo]

A thousand times yes.

[rintrahroars.livejournal.com]

+1000

[queenofhalves]

Nice.

[intuition-ist.livejournal.com]

you are full of awesome. :)

[docorion.livejournal.com]

Well said. Thanks. (For the record, met some friends for ice cream earlier. So, doing what I can here...)

[clara-girl.livejournal.com]

HELL YES.

It's a balance: fight the good fight (and you never ever know where that fight will turn up, and sometimes what looks like part of it is ACTUALLY just a misunderstanding, and and and...)

... and then go get ice cream, and feel the grass under your feet. And be grateful for what you've got.

[coraline]

yes yes yes.

you are awesome and i am glad you are part of my awesome world.

[fraterrisus]

+1

[hitchhiker.livejournal.com]

amen!