oh, no.

[moominmolly]

Not only do we have to move to short cubes, but I have to sit directly across from the funny little man.

This is the guy that said "I didn't read your journals all summer. I read Colleen's, though, because they were full of pain and melodrama." The guy that talked for a week about kissing my feet when I'd written a (rather prosaic and technical) letter that he'd been too lazy to write himself.

He's just oogy.

Comments

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[rednikki.livejournal.com]

This guy sounds two steps away from a sexual harassment lawsuit.

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[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

Maybe -- but he's always two steps away. It's still in the zone of "icky personal habits". I can't really explain it -- he has no decorum or personal space and appears to have some weird fixation on or grudge against me. I may ask to be moved before it's all set in stone.

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[crouchback.livejournal.com]

Have you thought of asking for him to move? Why should you have to move?

[harlequinaide.livejournal.com]

Cube-tent! A big, olive green one with anti-stupid-person cannons. You can buy them at Sears, and they're guranteed for life.

[srd.livejournal.com]

"Oogy". I like that word. "Oogy". Nice ring to it... what does it mean?

Anyway, ligitation seems a bit over-the-edge for this type of person. I'm guessing he's either not aware that he's grossing you out (did you tell him that in a matter-of-fact tone?) or he likes to annoy people (you remember the type from school)... Showing him that he's hitting a nerve w/o taking appropriate counteraction will just encourage him, and passive-aggressively changing your cubicle (as a stand along measure) won't solve the problem in the long run.

Having been one of those "lets annoy people for fun" persons myself at one point, I would say from experience that the best way to deal with him is to make certain he knows that you don't think it's fun, and he won't have any fun either, if he keeps it up. But not by intervention from above. That will just add a new challenge to the entire situation. "Lets get around the rules!"

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

I don't know what other people might mean by it, but for me, "oogy" is a word for things that are almost normal, but just creepy / gross / strange enough to be unsettling. Imagine a big, dark old house with vegetation climbing the walls and paint peeling off the trim. Imagine that the only person that lives there is a shaggy-headed old man with only one eye, and that he keeps a shimmering, perfectly-groomed golden retriever. That would be oogy.

Litigation would definitely be over the edge. Asking him to move because I think he's a little squicky is over the edge. I'm pretty sure he doesn't know that he's being annoying. I have told him to stop, in the past, and for a while, it worked... I just get tired of playing Social Boundary Cop. It's my problem, though, fundamentally, so I guess I should keep drawing my lines and asking him to kindly not cross them.