dynamic elf

Thank you for sharing your experience, it resonates with what I was going to write about, and is more clear than I would have been able to express it. The actions you describe are similar to what my mother did for my sister when she (my sister) was in the state of giving up on life. Understanding the mental landscape of the person is SO important to being able to reach them at all, and accepting that they might be in an irrational/altered state is part of that.

moominmolly, I'm so sorry this is in your life right now. There is SO much thoughtful and useful advice in the comments to this post. You're definitely not alone in dealing with this kind of situation.