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moominmolly) wrote2009-11-24 11:54 am
moominmolly) wrote2009-11-24 11:54 am
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Why did nobody ever tell me that tea is so much better than coffee? The little cafe near my gym has a blend called "Somali Tea", which is some random black tea with cardamom pods in it, and I drank that with cream while taking the train to work and I felt extremely Right.
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I am not always a saintly parent. I love Natalie fiercely, but sometimes my patience is short. I snap at her. I have petty arguments about things that don't matter, because I forget that they don't matter. I do things I'm not proud of. It's my job to find the graceful and harmonious way out of a situation, but sometimes I just don't have the tools at hand and things suck. Sometimes things suck a lot. I wish that for just one day I could hear my mother say, oh, honey, it's okay. I did that to you, too. It's okay.
In the meantime, it's really, really good to have a husband who understands, and a child who can say, "I'm sorry, I really wanted to listen but my body wasn't listening to me and I don't know why." Yeah. I've been there. Sometimes I don't know either.
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Which should I do: 100 days of pictures, with one taken and posted every day, or 60 days of portraits, one posted every day, but with portraits taken in batches? There are benefits and drawbacks to both, from this side; which would be more interesting to see?
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I am not always a saintly parent. I love Natalie fiercely, but sometimes my patience is short. I snap at her. I have petty arguments about things that don't matter, because I forget that they don't matter. I do things I'm not proud of. It's my job to find the graceful and harmonious way out of a situation, but sometimes I just don't have the tools at hand and things suck. Sometimes things suck a lot. I wish that for just one day I could hear my mother say, oh, honey, it's okay. I did that to you, too. It's okay.
In the meantime, it's really, really good to have a husband who understands, and a child who can say, "I'm sorry, I really wanted to listen but my body wasn't listening to me and I don't know why." Yeah. I've been there. Sometimes I don't know either.
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Which should I do: 100 days of pictures, with one taken and posted every day, or 60 days of portraits, one posted every day, but with portraits taken in batches? There are benefits and drawbacks to both, from this side; which would be more interesting to see?
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In my prior line of work I encountered a lot of kids, and a lot of parents. So I feel confident in saying this:
All parents screw up some. Nearly all kids are very resilient around small-to-moderate-to-even-kinda-striking screwup, and turn out OK. The sorts of parental screwups that kids are not resilient around are all on the other side of lines that most people find very bright ("it's bad to be bitter, crazy, and alcoholic", "it's bad to constantly compare your younger child to your older in a way that makes it clear he never measures up", "it's bad to have a divorce so virulent you can't even be peacefully in the same room a decade later"). I am not concerned about you ending up on the other side of these lines!
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