I know a lot of other people have commented to this effect, but I think you don't have to be a perfect parent to be a good parent. To me, the fact that you talk about it with N is amazing, and will go a long way toward leaving her with good memories of growing up even if a certain event went less than perfectly. Your honesty about the process, both with us and with her, is gorgeous to behold.
Anecdotally, I distinctly remember times when my mom was a downright shitty parent, but I also NEVER doubted that she loved me and would be there for me. I turned out all right, with the added bonus that mom and I have been able to talk about that stuff now, as adults, and not kill each other over it. :p
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I know a lot of other people have commented to this effect, but I think you don't have to be a perfect parent to be a good parent. To me, the fact that you talk about it with N is amazing, and will go a long way toward leaving her with good memories of growing up even if a certain event went less than perfectly. Your honesty about the process, both with us and with her, is gorgeous to behold.
Anecdotally, I distinctly remember times when my mom was a downright shitty parent, but I also NEVER doubted that she loved me and would be there for me. I turned out all right, with the added bonus that mom and I have been able to talk about that stuff now, as adults, and not kill each other over it. :p